Introduction.......

So for a long time, I have wanted to write a blog. I can't remember how long, but I know it got to the point where it felt like a calling. Have you ever felt like that? Wanting something so bad that it starts to feel like you were born to do it? Anyway, here we are (excited). My so called "calling" is now available to you, my dearest reader.

My motivation was from a book I read called "The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F**k". Most of you have probably read it too; a really nice book. Well, the author, Mark Mawson, said something along the lines of: there is nothing like being motivated or waiting for motivation, you just do it and then motivation will come. So here I am, just doing it.

Right, let's not go off course. So yes, for my first write up, I thought maybe we should just go with the flow? Do random things because, well, by my logic, when you want to introduce yourself to people, you start with the little stuff. Something that eases them in, before you delve into heavy things.

Now, randomly, I have always been curious about why we are who we are as humans. I have my theories. I mean, when I was younger, I wondered why I looked the way I did, and others looked the way they did. Obviously, part of what makes me human are my eyes, mouth, nose, and the tip of my index finger; which aligns with my knee cap and what not. However, I didn't really understand why I didn't look like my mom or the other kids I met at school. Also, I never quite understood why they didn't look like me. Eventually, I realized that that was what made us "UNIQUE" and "SPECIAL". We can apply the same logic to character. That having different characters is what makes us "SPECIAL" and "UNIQUE". I have had conversations with people, as we all do, formally or informally and I have made a very interesting observation: people underestimate the value of behavior. Actually, what I mean is 'good' behavior.

Throughout our lives, we are constantly interacting with the people around us, and as we all know, beauty is only skin deep. It goes way beyond your physical appearance. Down to who you are at your core. Gandhi famously said,

“Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny.”

If we go by Ghandi's logic, it then raises the question of what makes one a decent person, right? I mean beyond the " it's the right thing to do ". Obviously, there is also creating healthy relationships, and it being good for one's self-image.

How do you then become a "decent" human? I do have a few ideas. Something like, learning to forgive is at the very top on my list. Here's the tricky part though; it's not about learning to forgive people. It is about learning to forgive yourself. True healing starts when you forgive yourself. Also, learning to abandon anger, and caring about people with the purest of intention.

We are all so busy these days that we don't stop to "REFLECT" on ourselves, appreciate nature, or even think of how our behavior or lack of it affects those that deal with us daily. The irony of this is that being able to take a breather and "REFLECT" will not only make us better people, it will also allow you to be inspired and innovative. You need the right behavior and mindset to achieve these. Without good behavior, I'd say, and you should agree, that we are nothing. For behavior is everything, and being decent is classified as being a good person.

After saying all this, I will like to conclude with who I feel a good person is, this is someone who displays love, joy, peace, kindness, goodness, humility, patience and whose faith endures, all the while giving room for growth for both him/her and those around them. A good person is NOT PERFECT, but he/she displays self-control (this means you have gotten to the point of self-actualization, where you know what your core values are), and considers others in all he/she does. Also, a good friend, listener, has integrity and understands accountability, for himself/herself as well as others. This person is not judgmental and holds no score of records against others but walks with acceptance and understanding of others. There are only a few people that would fall under this category, and I, thankfully, have had the opportunity to meet a few of them. For that, I consider myself a lucky person, because of them I have learnt what it takes to be a DECENT HUMAN.